With higher divorce rates every year, it’s easy to believe that only lucky people are happily married, when in fact it’s all about hard work and habits.
Here are 8 habits of happily married people
They respect each other
One of the most important habits of happily married people is that they respect each other.
Respect doesn’t mean not fighting; it means that even when you are upset at your spouse, you’ll be able to convey that in a respectful.
Respect means accepting that you two are different and have different opinions.
They don’t blame each other
Blaming other people for their mistakes or worse, for your failures is a recipe for disaster.
If your spouse does something wrong or makes a mistake, blaming won’t sort out anything.
Think about it the other way around, if you make a mistake towards your spouse and they blame you for it, it will only put you down and make you feel frustrated.
If, on the other hand, your spouse would advise you how to fix your mistake, you’ll feel understood and motivated to do better, which leads to the next habit of happily married people.
Happily married people communicate.
Communicating doesn’t mean just talking. It means sharing what’s on your mind, what makes you happy, what makes you sad, what you want from your marriage and spouse and what you don’t want.
Communication is key to making a marriage work and to being happily married.
They split responsibilities
One of the main reasons why married couples fight is because, usually, all responsibilities fall on the woman.
From cleaning, cooking, doing the dishes and the laundry, to taking care of the children. Taking care of a household is a full-time job by itself.
If one person handles all of this, it’s basically impossible to have any energy left to spend time with your partner, which naturally leads to all sorts of problems.
If you want to have a happy marriage, split all responsibilities.
They support each other
Happily married people support each other. As the vows, you take “for good or for worse, through sickness and in health” you need to support each other.
Whether your spouse wants to pursue a dream or to change careers, it’s very important for them to have your support, as it would be the same for you.
When your spouse is feeling down, or going through a rough time, your support might be the only thing that they need.
They are happy on their own
One of the common habits of happily married people is that they are independent and happy on their own.
They do not depend on their spouse to be happy. They have their own friends, social life and activities or hobbies that make them happy even if their spouse is not involved.
They appreciate each other
Appreciation is one of the most underrated habits, although it is one of the keys to being happily married.
Appreciating your spouse doesn’t mean praising them. It means showing you noticed a small gesture that they did, such as taking the garbage out by saying thank you.
As a happily married person, I cannot stress this enough. Both my husband and I always say thank you to each other for the smallest things.
They love each other
Although I left this for the last and not technically a habit, love is obviously the most important aspect of being happily married.
If two people do not love each other, they will not put the same effort and they won’t be as dedicated to making things work as two people who love each other.